Submitted by Greg Nilson on Wed, 07/06/2011 - 20:56
My grandpa is always right. “I wouldn’t want date woman nowadays,” he tells me. “Women these days simply don’t know how to be a woman – even if they wanted to.”
Not only is “dating” tougher, just meeting good women these days is like pulling teeth.
Approach a woman in any city in the United States and it plain to see – she’s not into you. Or so it seems.
Women, from a man’s perspective, don’t know what they want. They are confused on the social roles that they have no idea how to behave when a man approaches them.
The reason: they so incensed with themselves. Their ego and the drama the actively promote in their lives fill their head that there is no real room for smile, let alone a decent conversation on what’s going on in the world.
Women today have found the pleasure center – and it’s all in their head. Think I’m joking? Let’s take a look: Is there a reason why Paris Hilton is so popular? What about her partner-in-crime, Nicole Richie? Has they ever saved one single life, help another person without the cameras on, or contributed to the goodness in the world? Probably not.
Success today is based on one big popularity contest – how many Twitter followers you have. Popularity (AKA Celebrity) Is more valued then, say a B.A. – how about an M.A.?)
So, today’s woman grows up fascinated by the fantasy of celebrity in her mind, always feeding it with drama and popularity-inducing events like a sex tape. After all, you are not a true celebrity in America if you haven’t made a sex tape or spent a month in county jail, right?
What about online dating? Women scour the profiles of each other more than they do men. They incorporate a double standard on themselves – other women are lying on their profile and men tell the truth.
To succeed in dating today in mainstream America, you have to be jaded. You have to not smile. You have to pretend you don’t read the newspaper and instead read People Magazine. It’s hard to imagine things getting better, with profile-filled sites like Facebook, Twitter, and Tumblr – we can all afford to be a celebrity in our own mind.
So, is there any hope for dating today? I asked my Grandpa.
“Yes,” but you got to be smart. There will always be good women out there; you just got to know where to find them.
So, I went on further. “Do you have any idea where the good women are?”
“Do I know where these good women are?” he asked. “Sure do,” he replied.
They are out there making a difference. They are the ones who chose to leave celebrities have their fame, and instead took up a cause. There many women to be found in non-profit organizations or clubs that are geared to finding a better way for people to live together.
They are involved in sports teams – weekend softball or volleyball teams. They turned in their high-heals for a pair of good running shoes.
I thought about this for a minute. My grandpa was right. He is always right.
I got up and left.
“Where you going all in a rush?” he asked me.
“To get a pair of running shoes,” I replied.
Ummm... No
Yes, I do feel that some of these things are true, about some women. These types of stereotypes are true of the types of women that are portrayed in our media, but are not representative of most women.
The truth is, if guys follow these guidelines, they are only going to be able to attract the types of women that are described in this article. If you stop trying to take an intellectual approach to dating, you are not going to attract any intellectual women.
If you are having trouble finding a bright, witty, and interesting woman, maybe the problem is within yourself.
So I have to admit that I
So I have to admit that I agree with your take on women to a degree. Are such a large amount of women jaded and unfriendly and obsessed with celebrities? I dont think so. There are actually a lot of nice ladies out there. Yes, a lot of them are into themselves. But then there are those that just dont want to seem easy so they feel like they have to slam you when you come up and hit on them or just say anything to them. If they say yes right away then they are pathetic. There is an image that many women feel the need to live up to that they got from movies and that is unfortunate. But you dont need to mess with women like that anyway. As far as charities go...I am not so sure about that. Too many of them, just from my perspective, are too into themselves and only doing charity work to tell others that they do it. Its still an image that they are trying to make. So I am not sure there is really a formula or sure fire way to find a good one out there, you just have to keep trying. Look for the one sitting off to the side not tryind desperately to be in the spotlight for starters. Men fall for the attention getter all too often.