Submitted by David Gonzalez on Tue, 10/25/2011 - 07:26
Don't have a job? Don't have a car? Don't get down on yourself... Keep your head up and make the best out of your situation. Here's how to date with no job, no car, and still keep your self-respect
With the economy doing so bad, and the recession stretching to what seems like an eternity, it seems impossible to date without hurting your pocket even further. You can hardly step out of your doors without spending at least a crisp $100 bill. Of course dating costs money and when you do not have a job, or a car, it may seem impossible to do anything even remotely resembling it. Do not despair though; here’s how you can keep dating without putting your date off and losing your self-respect.
Keep a sunny disposition
The times are hard for everyone, so keeping a sunny disposition becomes all the more important. If you are going on a first date, sulking and complaining about losing your job or not having enough money will only ensure that you never have a second one. Though it may be difficult, keep cheerful and make sure that you only talk about things that keep the conversations light and cheery.
Tone things down
Dating in a down economy is tough and as much as you may like to don the most expensive dress in your wardrobe, or the most exquisite of your jewels, try and avoid doing that. Keep your attire simple. Avoid conversing about your date’s job or the car he or she drives. Instead, talk about personal experiences or hobbies that do not involve a lot of expenses.
Choose dating venues that do not empty your bank account
A mini golf course is an excellent place to date. It is a lot of fun, there is almost always food available and things are priced very modestly. You can have hours of bonding and fun at the golf course. Some of the other places brimming with activity and opportunities for bonding include hayrides, paint your own ceramic shops, ice skating and tag sales.
You also delight your date with a movie, cards and a homemade meal. If you and your date are both adventurous and outdoorsy, you may choose to go hiking or camping. Amidst the nature, you will find plenty of opportunities for romance.
Show appreciation
Research shows that 74% of men expect to pay on the first date, but there are others who expect to divide the costs. So always offer to pay, even if it is only a fake-purse-grabbing routine. If your date decides to pay for dinner, appreciate the gesture and throw in the tip. This not only shows your interest, but is also the polite thing to do.
Your online profile deserves attention
If you are looking for someone to date, keep your expectations real and pay some attention to your dating profile. Writing something like ‘looking for someone with a seven figure salary’ is distasteful and certainly not recommended – especially in these times of a slow economy. Your online dating profile should show realistic expectations from your partner.
Keep expectations real
Unemployment is rising throughout the world, especially because of the slow economy. Almost every eleventh person today, is out of a job and looking for a new one. In these times, you may miss out on an excellent partner if you refuse to date someone who is unemployed. If an unemployed person is willing to work, and actively looking for it, there is no reason you should not date him or her. In time, they may get employed and things would be alright.
More important, than anything else, is to be with someone you feel a connection with. Do not attach a monetary value to every potential partner when seeking romance. Only when you have real expectations, would you find a relationship that stands the ups and downs of an ever volatile economy.
Low Cost May Me More Intimate
The positive outlook here is great. The best advice in this article is to not dwell on the negative. From a woman's perspective, I know that women like a man who is confident in himself, even when times are tough. If you dwell on all of the things you don't like about yourself, your date is not going to like you either.
Secondly, I feel that a lot of the less expensive date options tend to allow for a more intimate date. Going to dinner and a movie can be really expensive. If you have just started dating someone, this can mean awkward conversation at a mid to nice restaurant, then sitting in a theater for two hours not speaking. If you go the less expensive route, you can cook a meal at home, maybe even together, then rent a movie for only a dollar or two. Not only will everyone feel a little more comfortable, the two of you have the option of talking and getting to know each other while watching the movie.
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This is a great article for those out there that watch too much millionaire-matchmaker and expect every date to be a possible jack pot. If thats what you are looking for then you are just looking to be a sugar baby and not an actual date. But for those that do want to actually find someone these are great ideas. Women do not need to be whisked off to a 5 star restaurant then an evening on a yacht to make them happy and if they do then you dont need 'em. Putt-Putt reminds people of their high school days so it makes it all the more fun and giddy. I say go for these ideas and dont worry about looking cheap, if she doesnt mind then she is worth the time.